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4 February 2012

Eckhart Tolle

Ever since I read Practicing The Power of Now in 2006 on my South America trip, I have had a great love for Eckhart Tolle and his immense wisdom.  In 2012 I joined Jilly's Tuesday Eckhart Tolle group and for years, watched videos of him teaching. He is directly responsible for my spiritual awakening and evolution.










His books that inspired me





Favourite quotes


Transcending identification with thought and emotion

  • The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.
  • You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over.
  • Not all thinking and all emotion are of the ego. They turn into ego only when you identify with them and they take you over completely, that is to say, when they become ‘I.’
  • Suffering is believing in the thoughts that the mind throws up. 
  • Here is a new spiritual practice for you: don’t take your thoughts so seriously.  
  • Be comfortable not needing to define yourself through thought.
  • Emotion in itself is not unhappiness. Only emotion plus an unhappy story is unhappiness.


Transcending ego, the false sense of being a separate self

  • Ego is no more than this: identification with form, which primarily means thought forms.
  • Whatever form it takes, the unconscious drive behind ego is to strengthen the image of who I think I am. 
  • The ego treats the present moment in 3 ways: 1. As a means to an end. 2. As an obstacle. 3. As an enemy. The ego looks to past for identity and the future for fulfilment.
  • If you are content with being nobody in particular, content not to stand out, you align yourself with the power of the universe. What looks like weakness to the ego is in fact the only true strength. 
  • Your sense of identity, of self, is reduced to a story you keep telling yourself in your head. “Me and my story.” 
  • One day I will catch myself smiling at the voice in my head, as I would the antics of a small child.  This means that you no longer take the content of your mind all that seriously, as your sense of self does not depend on it.  
  • Without the ego, there would be no enlightenment or awakening.
  • What you react to in others, you strengthen in yourself. 


Be the observing Presence and know that as your true essence

  • Knowing yourself as the awareness behind the voice is freedom.
  • Knowing yourself is to be rooted in Being, instead of lost in your mind.
  • Listen to the voice in your head, be there as the witnessing presence.
  • If thought doesn’t take you over, you become the space in which it comes and goes. 
  • The beginning of freedom is the realisation that you are not the “thinker.”
  • When you notice that voice, you realise that who you are is not the voice—the thinker—but the one who is aware of it.   
  • What a liberation to realise that the “voice in my head” is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that.  
  • Identification with the mind gives it more energy; observation of the mind withdraws energy from it.
  • Pay more attention to your reactions than the cause of the reactions. 
  • Knowing yourself is to be rooted in Being, instead of lost in your mind.  
  • Every time you create a gap in the stream of mind the light of your consciousness grows stronger.


Be fully present in the Now

  • Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life. 
  • Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be.
  • The real meditation is your life and your life is now. 
  • To let go of the ego, surrender to the now. Say yes to the form this now takes. \
  • You cannot be both unhappy and fully present in the Now.
  • In the very moment you recognize you aren’t present, you’ve become present.
  • Don't let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment. And what is that? There is a sense of quality in what you do, even the most simple action.
  • Ask yourself: Is there joy, ease, and lightness in what I am doing? If there isn’t, then time is covering up the present moment, and life is perceived as a burden or a struggle.
  • If you keep your attention in the body as much as possible, you will be anchored in the Now. You won’t lose yourself in the external world, and you won’t lose yourself in your mind.
  • Sense perception is closer to who you are than thought.


Surrender to the Now by saying "yes" to what is

  • Regularly ask yourself “What is my relationship right now with the present moment?”
  • Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.  
  • Change what can be changed, otherwise surrender to what is.
  • Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is?
  • Since mind and resistance are synonymous, acceptance immediately frees you from mind dominance and thus reconnects you with Being.
  • Resisting is obstructing the power of the universe.
  • The whole Universe has brought this moment about. Who am I to fight it?
  • To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease and lightness. This state is no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad.
  • Surrender is a purely inner phenomenon. It does not mean that on the outer level you cannot take action and change the situation.
  • The action you take after surrender is always more effective than when you fight against life.
  • Being one with life is being one with Now. You then realize that you don’t live your life, but life lives you.
  • To complain is always non-acceptance of what is.
  • At this moment, you are exactly where you're meant to be. There is nowhere else you can be.


Realise the power of stillness

  • Stillness is the language God speaks, and everything else is a bad translation. 
  • Stillness is the only thing in this world that has no form but then, it is not really a thing and it is not of this world.   


Access the spiritual power of Presence: Love, Beauty, Wonder, Intelligence, Creativity

  • The present moment is always small in the sense that it is always simple, but concealed within it lies the greatest power. Like the atom, it is one of the smallest things yet contains enormous power.
  • As you become present and thereby total in what you do, your actions become charged with spiritual power.
  • When you are one with what is, the universal intelligence arises to create right action.
  • A higher level of consciousness is awakened. I get in touch with the vast realm of intelligence beyond thought.
  • All true artists, whether they know it or not, create form a place of no- mind, from inner stillness.
  • Beauty arises in the stillness of one’s presence.
  • Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfilment, for validation, security, or love – you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.
  • Consciousness flows through you into this world. It flows into your thoughts and inspires them. It flows into what you do and guides and empowers it.
  • It is the quality of your consciousness at this moment that determines the future.


Suffering (resistance to what is) can help us awaken

  • Suffering has a noble purpose: the evolution of consciousness and the burning up of the ego.
  • Suffering cracks open the shell of ego, and then comes a point when it has served its purpose. Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.
  • Bring your pain body into the light of presence. Free its energy. Allow the pain to become fuel for consciousness.
  • The worst thing in life can become the best thing. The very thing that awakens you.  


Surrender the need to know

  • Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing.
  • When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.


Surrender the need to label, name and categorise

  • Can you take the thinking out of the perceiving? Can you look without the voice in your head commenting, drawing conclusions, comparing, or trying to figure something out?
  • Words reduce reality to something the human mind can grasp, which isn’t very much.


Recognise the sacredness in all

  • Even a stone, and more easily a flower or a bird, could show you the way back to God, to the Source, to yourself. When you look at it or hold it and let it be without imposing a word of mental label on it, a sense of awe, of wonder, arises within you. Its essence silently communicates itself to you and reflects your own essence back to you.
  • Everything, a bird, a tree, even a simple stone, and certainly a human being, is ultimately unknowable. This is because it has unfathomable depth.
  • The significance is hiding in the insignificant. Appreciate everything.


True non-attachment is not identification with form

  • How do you let go of attachment to things? Don’t even try. It’s impossible. Attachment to things drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them.
  • Equating the physical sense-perceived body that is destined to grow old, wither, and die with “I” always leads to suffering sooner or later.
  • In form, you are and will always be inferior to some, superior to others. In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone. True self- esteem and true humility arise out of that realization.


Rest in the process, in this step

  • Your outer journey may contain a million steps; your inner journey only has one: the step you are taking right now.
  • Doing one thing at a time means to be total in what you do, to give it your complete attention. This is surrendered action—empowered action.
  • So do not be concerned with the fruit of your action—just give attention to the action itself. The fruit will come of its own accord.


Through Being, allow consciousness to flow though you into the world

  • Formal meditation  is no substitute for bringing space consciousness into everyday life.
  • When doing becomes infused with the timeless quality of Being, that is success. Unless Being flows into doing, unless you are present, you lose yourself in whatever you do.
  • Opening yourself to the emerging consciousness and bringing its light into this world then becomes the primary purpose of your life. Not your aims or your actions are primary, but the state of consciousness out of which they come.
  • Awakened doing is the alignment of your outer purpose—what you do—with your inner purpose—awakening and staying awake. Through awakened doing, you become one with the outgoing purpose of the universe. Consciousness flows through you into this world. It flows into your thoughts and inspires them. It flows into what you do and guides and empowers it.


God is Being; inseparable from what you are

  • We are God in deep disguise.
  • God is Being itself, not a being. There can be no subject-object relationship here, no duality, no you and God. God- realization is the most natural thing there is.
  • What is God? The eternal one life underneath all the forms of life. What is love? To feel the presence of that one life deep within yourself and within all creatures. To be it. Therefore, all love is the love of God.
  • We are all manifestations of The One Source. God is the formless essence of all life that you are.
  • Through the present moment, you have access to the power of life itself, that which has traditionally been called "God."
  • Enlightenment is simply your natural state of felt oneness with being.
  • Consciousness is dreaming you. It likes it. But, it also wants to wake up.


Love is a state of being; a recognition of oneness with everyone and everything

  • Love is the realisation we are one. It is meeting another as yourself.
  • Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you.


We are here to awaken to our true nature as Being

  • Your inner purpose is to awaken. It is as simple as that. You share that purpose with every other person on the planet—because it is the purpose of humanity.


True happiness lies in the knowing of our own Being

  • The joy of Being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form, possession, achievement, person, or event –through anything that happens. That joy cannot come to you – ever. It emanates from the formless dimension within you, from consciousness itself and thus is one with who you are.

27 January 2012

Challenges (2012)


Teaching

  • Students wanting to leave
  • Stress of getting new class
  • Perceived rejection from Rosa
  • Janice shout at me
  • Photocopy lessons at 8 am - stress!


Dani

  • Anxiety erections
  • Pain when not work
  • Dani's period late 1st time
  • Guilt and indecision re Dani
  • Fear of rejection
  • Indecision. On tiger's back.


Meds and agitation

  • Agitation effects me later in day
  • Meds x 2
  • Addiction to coffee milk


Other

  • Sick on Orange River

22 January 2012

Things I treasure


Ode to things I love



Being up and out in the world



City exploration



Priceless events



Fun and humour



Priceless things

Mack in his Xmas outfit

Needless to say, this was Liza's purchase, not mine. But Mack didn't mind wearing it on Xmas morning as it got him lots of extra treats and attentions.











Kingfishers











Correspondence with Nerium

 Hi there Nerium

Hey, what a lovely name.  I studied 10 years of Latin at school (maybe I shouldn't be admitting this so soon!!) as well as a year of Botany at university, so not only can I admire your name, but I can also conjugate it! From what I know of the Oleander, it may be very poisonous and all over the place, but it does also have a beautiful flower :)

From your profile and email, it looks like we have a lot in common.

Let see, now...

You've lived in a lot of different places.  I have too, but not quite as many as you. I've lived in Cape Town, Pretoria, London, Cambridge and now Sydney.  I've also spent large amounts of time in Gothenberg and Tel Aviv with work.  I love settling into and getting to know new places, which also explains my addiction to travel.  I've been living in Sydney now since late 2006 and am happy to call it home.  However, that doesnít mean Iím shouting for the Aussies in the world cup rugby ñ Iím still South African in that regard !

You like animals and so do I. In Cape Town, I did voluntary work for an animal rescue organisation which was often very hard emotionally but also extremely fulfilling. Currently, the love of my life is Mack, my adorable Jack Russell. He takes me for walks every day to the park and introduces me to all the local dogs and their owners.  He's ball mad and the sweetest natured dog you can imagine.   

You are involved in developing Internet sites for a living.  Me too!!  I do freelance work for an interactive web agency helping clients to use the internet through online marketing etc. It sounds like you've got some very interesting clients and your sites look great. Like you, I get quite attached to my clients.  My most recent project has been for an online fitness community site - www.springday.com.au. 

My freelance consulting I do part time and it pays my bills. The rest of the time I teach English to a class of young adult students from all over the world.  It doesn't pay much but it really fulfills me and makes me feel young. English is a passport to so many opportunities for my students and it's wonderful to be able to play a role in helping them to move towards their goals.  

You like Eckhart Tolle.  I'm a tremendous fan of his as well. He has so much to teach about living in the moment and "mindful" living.  Partly thanks to him, I became very interested in meditation and it helps me greatly to "let go" of things.  Other spiritual authors that have made a big impact on me are Deepak Chopra, Neale Walsch and John Kehoe. 

Interesting too that you mentioned Buddhism.  I went to some Buddhist meetings earlier this year and it's something I'm keen to pursue again. When I was hiking in Nepal, I came into contact with some wonderful Buddhist monks and meditated in some beautiful remote temples in the Himalayas. It's a wonderful philosophy with a lot to teach.

You like the outdoors.  I can very much relate to that too. I'm at my happiest when I'm out in nature, the more remote the better.  Being in nature is a powerful spiritual outlet for me and a big reason why I enjoy hiking so much.  Another of my spiritual outlets is taking photos and capturing the beauty of things.  I've been taking photos for a few years now and enjoy it immensely. You can see some of my photos at http://g-trovephotos.com

You like prawns and picnics. Me too! Especially prawns.  Yum!  And I live right on a beautiful park here in Waverton which is perfect for picnics. 

So, we have lots in common. I must admit, however, to not knowing anything at all about Woolclassing, architectural drafting, V8s or WWE!!  However, I'm always fascinated to find out about new things :)  

By the way, I must also admit to not knowing what a "bitzer" is - is that a local expression??  I tried to Google it but it didn't help!!  You'll have to enlighten me!

Anyway, hope that's given you a bit more info about me. I'm totally new to RSVP and the online dating world so you'll have to guide me through any protocols.

Cheers 

Graeme


Hi there Neri

My mum also writes me long emails every few weeks and I love getting them. They give me a wonderful sense of the everyday life of my family in Cape Town, including my sister and beloved nephew and niece (aged 7 and 11) who I miss very much.  My mum would love it if I recipricated in  kind, but I prefer to keep in contact through Skype.  Having said that, I do keep a blog that keeps everyone updated with my life, but these days it consists more of photographs than detailed written ramblings. The blog is at www.graemex.blogspot.com

Talking of writing, you write beautifully.  I definitely think you've got some excellent novels in you. Your varied life experiences and interests will provide rich pickings. Have you decided yet on the theme of your trilogy? Interesting too that you write poetry. Do you ever share it?  I also like to write poetry once in a while, but haven't in ages. Maybe it's time to start again. 

It doesn't freak me out that you haven't been out of Australia. It certainly might have a couple of years ago, but not now.  When I was younger, I went through a compulsive stint of wanting to travel everywhere I hadn't been and see everything I hadn't seen. It was an addiction and I felt I was losing out when I wasn't "on the road", especially when I was bogged down in the daily grind of work.  But since I arrived in Australia, I've become more grounded and sedentary. I read once that the real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes. It resonated.  I've been focussing a lot more on deepening my appreciation of where I'm at and not longing so much after new places.  And let's face it, there is a lot to appreciate and experience and explore in Sydney. I've really loved getting to know her really well.  That's the great thing about photography too.  You can visit exactly the same place over and over but the subtle differences in light give you different results every time.  It helps me see with new eyes. 

Wow, it must have been hard to lose both Holly and Tate so close together, especially at such a difficult time with your break up. Are you thinking of getting any new pets?  Pet's are so enriching, but they are also a big responsibility and they can tie you down a bit. I'm very lucky with Mack. He escaped from my house when I was at work last year (my pescy housemate left the gate open.)  Mack decided to search me out and ran straight for the Pacific Highway. He was rescued by a local woman who totally fell in love with him.  Now she looks after Mack during the day while I'm at work.  And she has him two to three nights a week so I can enjoy a guilt free social life.  And if I want to go away for the weekend to a national park, or to South Africa for a few weeks to see my family, she looks after him too.  So I'm not tied down at all. And Mack loves it - he's hardly ever alone and never has to go to the kennels.  It's a wonderful concept - dog share.  Maybe there's a business idea there, facilitating it...   

Your CEO friend sounds like a really amazing guy.  To keep the spirit strong through an ordeal as traumatic and exhausting as cancer is an amazing thing. I've been following the journey of Kristian at http://howthelightgetsin.net and he too really inspires me.  It's amazing how faith can be so nourishing. The power of believing that things happen for a reason and embracing it.

Wow, that music site of yours is huge! It looks like an interesting business.  Do you play the guitar?  Handcoding certainly does provide extra flexibility and I like your values - it's good to know what you stand for when running your own business. Very important in fact.  When I was in London, I worked for a branding company and I spent my days helping businesses to understand what made them unique and special and then getting them to articulate that through everything they did. I enjoyed that a lot - it was a very creative process.

Thanks for some of your insights around RSVP. This dating thing is a little intimidating to me right now as I haven't done formal dating in well over a decade and a half!!! My relationship ended in late 2009 after 17 years - 10 years of which I was married. I had a relationship after the split with someone I met at the park through Mack (he's a great match maker) but it was a little disastrous - she unexpectedly turned out to be not just a little bit crazy and not in a good way. My radar is obvioulsy not as finely tuned as yours! So, I was scared off a bit and only now dabling my toe back in the sea.  One of my aims with RSVP is to increase my circle of single friends - most of my old friends are married couples with young kids.  I love them all, but I do find the conversation evolves around the kids 90% of the time and it get's a little bit much.

Anyway, over and out.  It's my birthday today and I've got a busy but fun day ahead.  Work, then drinks and dinner out with friends.  

Cheers for now

G


Hi Neri

Ah, Beauty and the Geek.  I saw the trailer for that a while back and it looked like a lot of fun - nice to see Geeks getting the girls for a change.  I hardly watch any TV (mainly because I hate all the advertising, every 5 minutes) but I'm hesitant to admit I did get a little bit hooked on Australia's Got Talent a little while ago. 

ABC is my favourite channel when I do watch, and I do have a bit of a thing for documentaries of any kind, but especially wildlife ones.  I'm a great David Attenborough fan and I own all his series. 

I'm addicted to movies and sometimes go through phases of watching several a week.  The cinema has no boundary, it is a ribbon of dream.  My favourite web site is The Internet Movie Database and when I was living in London, I watched all the movies on their top 250 list (http://www.imdb.com/chart/top)   Very sad, I know, and I really need to get out more - but what else is one supposed to do during a foul English winter?  The New York Times has a Top 1000 list but I've managed to abstain from that for the time being!  

My taste in movies is extremely varied - I'll watch anything as long as it's decent, including extremely obscure, foreign ones.  And old ones too.  While my friends lust after the likes of Angelina Jolie, I dream of Audrey Hepburn and Ingrid Bergman.  

Talking of lists, I do seem to have a bit of a strange penchant for chasing them and ticking them off...   For example, I've also been making my way through the BBC's Top 100 reads.  It's exposed to many of the classics I might not normally would have read. I also have a list of things I want to do before I die which influences my decisions and choices, especially when it comes to travel.  And I'm a birder and I love ticking off new species on my bird list when I'm out in nature. It was my goal to see over 1000 different species of birds in the world and that pursuit has taken me to mosquito infested rainforests all over the place. 

Wow, your breakup must have been realy awful.  It sounds like you were treated really badly and it must have been a tremendous shock.  It's a real testament to you that you didn't let it beat you and make you cynical and negative - but used it as a catalyst for personal and spiritual growth.

My breakup was tough too but a lot less traumatic than yours.  Ally and I had been together since she was 19 and I was 22.  We had a great relationship for many years and she was a wonderful partner.  However, we drifted apart, especially after coming to Sydney and I was to blame quite a bit for that as I took her for granted.  The decision to split was more hers than mine and it hurt, but I accepted it and didn't fight it.  In retrospect, I should have done more to save the marriage.  Very shortly after the split, she met someone else and they are now engaged and have bought a house together.  Ally and I still talk on the phone every so often and we remain friends.  I'll always love her as we were kindred spirits but in a pure way without any attachments or expectations that she'll ever come back. The Buddhist class I went to had a lot to teach about that kind of love.  It really helped.

I also hardly drink at all, at most a shandy if I go to a pub which is rarely. I don't really like beer that much, when I was much younger I much preferred cider to beer - to my father's immense horror, because in South Africa real men only drink beer. Wine gives me heartburn and I only drink it very occasionally.  I also really don't like noisy pubs at all.  I went to watch the rugby with work mates at a pub last night and in the background, there was never ending thumping music so we all had to shout to be heard and it became really irritating.

Like you, I also love the ocean but I'm not a particulalry huge beach fan either, except to do paddleskiing which I really enjoy. I prefer the forest, river and mountain to the beach, although I absolutely adore rocky coaslines where the ocean pounds onto the shore.  I can watch that for hours and hours.  There is a particular place in South Africa (Storm's River) where this happens and it's my favourite place on earth. I also adore high sea cliffs where you can slide on your tummy and look down at the ocean far below.  The Royal National Park has some cliffs like that and I love it.

Anyway, enough for now.  I'm off to have a barbecue with some friends. Lots of couples and kids, but it should be fun. The kiddies like to throw the ball for Mack and it keeps both them and Mack entertained for hours.

Bye for now

Graeme


16 January 2012

Favourite movies watched (2012)

  • The Dark Knight Rises (2012)
  • Skyfall  (2012)
  • The Artist (2011)
  • Argo (2012)
  • The Hunger Games (2012)
  • Drive (2011)
  • Incendies (2010)
  • 127 Hours (2010)
  • The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (2011)
  • Prometheus (2012)








8 January 2012

Non fiction books read (2012)


The power of Presence

  • The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle)
  • A New Earth  (Eckhart Tolle)
  • Stillness Speaks (Eckhart Tolle)
  • True Meditation: Discover the Freedom of Pure Awareness (Adyashanti)





Happiness

  • The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want (Sonja Lyubomirsky)
  • You Can Be Happy No Matter What: Five Principles for Keeping Life in Perspective (Richard Carlson)




Soulful purpose

  • The Power of Intention  (Dr. Wayne W. Dyer)
  • The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful and Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms (Danielle LaPorte)
  • Life on Purpose: Six Passages to an Inspired Life (Brad Swift)





Manifesting

  • The Secret (Rhonda Byrne)



Productivity

  • The 4-Hour Work Week: Escape the 9-5, Live Anywhere and Join the New Rich (Timothy Ferriss)
  • Making It All Work: Winning at the Game of Work and the Business of Life (David Allen)
  • Zen To Done: The Ultimate Simple Productivity System (Leo Babauta)
  • Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time (Brian Tracy)
  • Get-It-Done Guy's 9 Steps to Work Less and Do More: Transform Yourself from Overwhelmed to Overachiever (Quick & Dirty Tips)  Stever Robbins
  • Time Power: A Proven System for Getting More Done in Less Time Than You Ever Thought Possible (Brian Tracy)


Focus and innovation

  • Steve Jobs: The Exclusive Biography (Walter Isaacson)



Simplicity and essentialism

  • Inside-Out Simplicity (Joshua Becker)
  • focus (Leo Babauta)
  • The Effortless Life (Leo Babauta)
  • Zen Simplicity (Leo Babauta)
  • The Power of Less: The Fine Art of Limiting Yourself to the Essential...in Business and in Life (Leo Babauta)




Finances

  • Rich Dad Poor Dad (Robert T. Kiyosaki)


4 January 2012

What do you think?

OK, so I know it's not the most essential issue facing the world this year. It's not going to solve world hunger. Or determine whether the euro survives or not. But it may directly effect my sex life in 2012. So your opinion is of tremendous value and respectfully requested in this most sensitive matter.

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