Wayne Dyer and "Your Erroneous Zones"

I credit this book by Wayne Dyer for awakening my passion for personal development. I read it during my 2nd year at university.

Some favourite quotes

• It is easy to be a critic, but being a doer requires effort, risk and change.
• The rigid never grow. They tend to do things the same way they’ve always done them.
• Have you really lived 10,000 or more days or have you lived one day, 10,000 or more times?”
• Needing approval is tantamount to saying, "Your view of me is more important than my own opinion of myself.”
• A truer barometer of intelligence is an effective, happy life lived each day and each present moment of every day.
• Acceptance means no complaining, and happiness means no complaining about the things over which you can do nothing.
• Major premise: I can control my thoughts. Minor premise: My feelings come from my thoughts. Conclusion: I can control my feelings.
• Self-worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value it is other-worth.
• The ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.
• Instead of hating yourself, develop positive feelings. Learn from the error, and resolve not to repeat it but don’t associate it with your self-worth.
• Once you can change your thoughts, your new feelings will begin to emerge, and you will have taken the first step on the road to your personal freedom.
• A relationship based on love, as was said earlier, is one in which each partner allows the other to be what he chooses, with no expectations and no demands.
• There are two days in the week about which and upon which I never worry. Two carefree days, kept sacredly free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is yesterday…and the other day I do not worry about is tomorrow.”
• Love is a word that has as many definitions as there are people to define it. Try this one on for size. The ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.
• Guilt is the most useless of all erroneous zone behaviors. It is by far the greatest waste of emotional energy. Why? Because, by definition, you are feeling immobilized in the present over something that has already taken place, and no amount of guilt can ever change history.”
• Your worth is determined by you, and with no need for an explanation to anyone. And your worthiness, a given, has nothing to do with your behavior and feelings. You may not like your behavior in a given instance, but that has nothing to do with your self-worth. You can choose to be worthy to yourself forever, and then get on with the task of working on your self-images.”
• There is nothing to worry about! Absolutely nothing. You can spend the rest of your life, beginning right now, worrying about the future, and no amount of your worry will change a thing. Remember that worry is defined as being immobilized in the present as a result of things that are going or not going to happen in the future. You must be careful not to confuse worrying with planning for the future.
• Wayne Dyer quotes on Wisdom Trove